Although I have never had an easy life, each obstacle I have overcome has helped me become the person I am today. My family never loved all the children evenly when I was born. Being the middle child, I always felt invisible since my mother took care of my older sister and preferred my younger sister, leaving me to fend for myself. But I was powerful even as a kid.
I assumed obligations much above my capabilities because my father was not living with us as he was working overseas, and my one and only brother, who was older than I, joined him later. I did home chores, went to school by myself, and performed jobs that were typically performed by men in our culture. Although difficult, it helped me become self-sufficient. I also enjoyed my life as a young girl who was going out for groceries and other small stuff like bread etc.. I learnt a lot about how to deal with people, and people always respected me and guided me. I wanted to become a doctor, but that didn't happen, as in our society, girls were getting married by the age of 18.
A Marriage That Changed Everything
I got married at the age of 17. My aspirations of a well-educated, compassionate spouse dimmed as I was forced to live in a busy home with challenging in-laws in the joint family system. We always had a maid at my parents' place, therefore, I had never done any home chores before, like cleaning, dish washing, cooking, etc., and my spouse was illiterate. Although the change seemed daunting, I adjusted.
My circumstances deteriorated when I became pregnant shortly after. My in-laws threw us out of the house when I was seven months pregnant. Since I had nowhere else to go, I went back to my mother's house, and my husband shared housing. I gave birth to my first kid, a gorgeous baby boy, two months later.
I had to sell my gold jewelry to pay for my mother's insistence that I buy a house rather than rent one. We lived in a tiny, one-room house, and my husband made just enough money to buy us two meals a day. We were left with just difficulties and uncertainty—no furnishings or a suitable bed.
Surviving Abuse and Building a Future
My spouse started assaulting me, revealing his true nature. However, he would show me so much love after each violent outburst that it was difficult for me to leave. Eventually, in an attempt to settle our lives, my father employed him overseas. After my husband departed, I moved back in with my mother and sold our house for half its original price.
He said he couldn't survive without me when he came back six months later. He pledged to help me, to change, and to create a better future. I bought another property with my funds, believing him once again. As always, though, it was I who organized the funds, made the sacrifices, and fought to keep us afloat. I still had to borrow money from my sister, even after our son became really ill and required hospitalization.
My obligations increased as I had additional kids over time. Additionally, my husband's attitude changed; he no longer offered me any assistance at all. I was aware that I needed to take charge of my life. After learning how to tailor, I enrolled at an institution to acquire computer skills and English since I always believed that I need to learn everything I need to give my children, and I wanted to see them educated well-mannered citizens.
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