Although I have never had an easy life, each obstacle I have overcome has helped me become the person I am today. My family did not share affection evenly when I was born. Being the middle child, I frequently felt invisible since my mother took care of my older sister and preferred my younger sister, leaving me to fend for myself. But I was powerful even as a kid.
I assumed obligations much above my capabilities because my father was employed overseas and my older brother joined him later. I did home chores, went to school by myself, and performed jobs that were typically performed by guys in our culture. Although difficult, it helped me become self-sufficient.
A Marriage That Changed Everything
I got married off at the age of 17. My aspirations of a well-educated, compassionate spouse dimmed as I was forced to live in a busy home with challenging in-laws. We always had house assistance at my parents' place, therefore I had never done any domestic tasks before, and my spouse was illiterate. Although the change seemed daunting, I adjusted.
My circumstances deteriorated when I fell pregnant shortly after. My in-laws threw us out of the house when I was seven months pregnant. Since I had nowhere else to go, I went back to my mother's house, and my husband shared housing. I gave birth to my first kid, a gorgeous baby boy, two months later.
I had to sell my gold jewelry to pay for my mother's insistence that I buy a house rather than rent one. We lived in a tiny, one-room house, and my husband made just enough money to buy us two meals a day. We were left with just difficulties and uncertainty—no furnishings or a suitable bed.
Surviving Abuse and Building a Future
My spouse started assaulting me, revealing his true nature. However, he would show me so much love after each violent outburst that it was difficult for me to leave. Eventually, in an attempt to settle our life, my father got him a job overseas. After my husband departed, I moved back in with my mother and sold our house for half its original price.
He said he couldn't survive without me when he came back six months later. He pledged to help me, to change, and to create a better future. I bought another property with my funds, believing him once again. As always, though, it was me who organized the funds, made the sacrifices, and fought to keep us afloat. I still had to borrow money from my sister, even after our son became really ill and required hospitalization.
My obligations increased as I had additional kids over time. Additionally, my husband's attitude changed; he no longer offered me any assistance at all. I was aware that I needed to take charge of my life. After learning how to tailor, I enrolled at an institution to acquire computer skills and English since I was desperate to advance.
Discovering the Online World
I went to classes and made friends who introduced me to the Internet while my kids were in school. I studied Photoshop, made online profiles, and looked at ways to make money. I gained a better understanding of human psychology by chatting with people from all backgrounds, and I applied that understanding to enhance my commercial acumen.
However, my spouse kept disappointing me. He never made any financial contributions, so I was left to handle the home by myself. I made the decision to move into a larger home for my expanding kids, but my husband, as always, kept his word. I had to approach my sister for assistance when it came time to make the payment. I remained supportive of him despite his shortcomings.
Turning Struggles into Success
In 2015, I launched a blog and learned how to make money using Google without my husband's help. To generate more revenue, I also assisted others in setting up Facebook pages. I gradually started to establish myself and take charge of my finances and life.
My father died one day, and I was devastated. He was the one person I really loved, and he had always been my rock. But I felt I had to continue even if I was grieving. My kids were growing up; my daughter had aspirations of attending Oxford, but we were unable to pay for them, so she had to drop out after the 12th grade. Her passion for English and her aptitude for picking up accents from films, particularly Harry Potter, helped her land a position with the British Council.
Chasing a New Life Abroad
I got to the point where I wanted to quit the nation. My daughter and I filed for a Canadian visa after my parents passed away and I had nothing stopping us, yet our application was denied. We went to Dubai on study visas, determined not to give up. While I was pursuing a chef's degree, my daughter worked as a barista.
A year later, reality set in. Because of my age, I was turned down for jobs despite my best efforts. We had to make the tough choice to go back home because we had spent almost all of our money.
I sold everything before I left, including my vehicle, house, and gold, and I moved my spouse and sons into a rented home. I thought my husband would finally take action when I got back, but he kept doing nothing. I wouldn't share a roof with him until he accepted responsibility.
A New Beginning, Once Again
My oldest son daughter and I relocated to a new city. We started afresh after finding a home close by and a shop. My spouse remained, still relying on me to support him. I informed him that although I was tired of the arguments and stress, I would provide financial support if necessary.
My daughter works as a barista at my coffee business, which I now own and operate. I continue to publish blogs to increase my income and grow my company. Even though life has been unforgiving, I'm not giving up. I'm 48 years old and still battling, dreaming, and moving forward.
I am no longer the woman who was mistreated, the wife who was abandoned to fight alone, or the girl who was disregarded. I am a mother, a survivor, and a businessman. I've started my life from the beginning, and I'm certain that I will always strive for the life I deserve, no matter what happens.
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