Life is erratic, having both happy and difficult times. Despite our best efforts to steer clear of obstacles, they will unavoidably arise. Sometimes, when everything seems to be going well, life abruptly and unexpectedly takes a different turn, leaving us feeling confused, overburdened, or even broken. It is simple to feel that the issue is too heavy to handle and that the fight will never stop during those times. I know what it's like to be caught in a never-ending loop of problems and worry whether I'll ever get out. However, I've discovered by experience that although pain exists, it is fleeting.
It might feel lonely during difficult times, as though no one really gets what you're going through. Self-doubt arises at these times, leading you to doubt your fortitude and perseverance. However, I've learned that these difficulties frequently present chances for development. They put our endurance, patience, and adaptability to the test. I have learned something important about life, myself, and the people around me from every adversity I have encountered.
At one point, I felt totally helpless in the face of hardship. It appeared to get worse no matter what I did. I became insecure, withdrawn from other people, and began to think that nothing would ever change. However, now when I look back, I can understand how those experiences impacted me in ways that I could not have in the past. They helped me become more resilient, empathetic, and grateful for life's positive experiences. Above all, they showed me that no hardship is permanent.
I want to share with you the things I've learned along the way that have gotten me through my darkest moments. Even when things seemed hopeless, these reminders have given me courage, perspective, and the will to keep going. As they did for me, I hope these insights may provide you with support and direction if you are going through a tough moment.
1. This Too shall pass
Amid a challenging circumstance, it might seem never-ending. It feels as though the suffering, the anxiety, and the uncertainty will never end. There have been times when I felt like I would never be happy again when life was so heavy that it was difficult to get out of bed. However, nothing in life is everlasting. Difficulties come and go, just like happiness.
I used to continuously tell myself that things would change, no matter how difficult they felt at the time. As time passes, our circumstances also change. In retrospect, I see that every challenging stage finally came to an end, even if there were times when I was so preoccupied with my problems that I was unable to see past them. The intolerable moment faded into the past.
Imagining a brighter future was one coping mechanism for me. In a few months or years, I pictured myself reflecting on the current adversity and feeling pleased that I had survived. Reminding myself that my suffering would pass was more important than ignoring it. This change in perspective provided me with courage and enabled me to continue moving forward even in the face of despair.
2. It’s Okay to Feel How You’re Feeling
Suppressing my emotions was one of my worst past blunders. I thought it was a sign of weakness to express grief, dissatisfaction, or fear. I would thus suppress my feelings and attempt to pretend that nothing was wrong rather than letting myself feel. However, I eventually discovered that suppressing my emotions simply made everything worse.
It is normal to feel a wide range of emotions during difficult circumstances. You may experience anger on some days. You could feel numb on other days. On other days, though, the grief seems unbearable. All of these feelings are real, and it's better to accept them than to repress them.
I discovered that journaling aided in the processing of my feelings. Rather than suppressing my emotions, I gave myself permission to write out my ideas without fear of criticism. I was able to make sense of my feelings and get clarity thanks to this exercise. It also acted as a reminder that, like the difficulties we encounter, feelings are fleeting.
3. You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
I distanced myself from everyone during one of the most trying times of my life. I believed that no one could really relate to what I was going through and that I was responsible for overcoming my difficulties. Isolating myself, however, simply made matters worse. I came to see that everyone needs help, regardless of how powerful they believe they are.
Making contact with a therapist, family member, or trusted friend can have a profound impact. It might be comforting to simply have someone listen to you without passing judgment. I can still recall the moment I at last talked about what I was going through. Although it wasn't simple, I felt as though a burden had been lifted when I confided in someone else about my feelings and anxieties.
Having in-depth discussions isn't the only method to get support. Whether it's sharing a meal, going on a stroll, or watching a movie together, there are moments when it's just comforting to be with someone who cares. Some individuals truly want to assist, and you are not alone in your troubles. All you need to do is let them in.
4. Pay Attention to What You Can Manage
The sensation of losing control is one of the most challenging aspects of handling challenging circumstances. It is easy to feel powerless when life seems hectic. There were moments when I became fixated on things over which I had no control, which only served to increase my sense of helplessness. However, I discovered that focusing on the areas I could control had a significant impact.
There are always little things you can control, even during the most trying times. It may be as easy as sticking to a daily schedule, taking good care of your health, or making modest goals. I recall going through a difficult period when I was totally lost. I began making tiny, deliberate decisions every day rather than dwelling on the uncertainties of my circumstances. I took care to eat healthily, take little walks, and take breaks when necessary. I felt less overwhelmed and was able to restore control thanks to these minor steps.
Making a list of the things you can and cannot control is a useful method to do this. I came to the realization that although I couldn't alter my circumstances entirely, I could alter how I handled them. I felt more grounded and was able to face my difficulties with greater clarity when I concentrated on what I could control.
5. Take Things One Day at a Time
I made the error of viewing my issues as a single, massive barrier at one of the most trying times of my life. I was really trapped because I felt like I had to figure everything out at once. I felt more nervous, more worn out, and less able to do anything at all each time I considered all the problems that needed to be fixed. It was similar to feeling too immobilized to even take a single step when gazing at a mountain.
In the end, I found that breaking things down into smaller, easier-to-manage chunks helped. I began to take things one day at a time, sometimes even one hour at a time, and lost sight of the larger fight. Rather than pondering "How will I fix everything?" "What small step can I take today to move forward?" became my new way of thinking. It was that change that changed everything.
I used to make a little daily goal every morning. Sometimes it was as easy as making sure I ate a healthy meal, going for a little stroll outside, or doing a tiny chore I had been putting off. It didn't have to be something big. These minor triumphs restored my sense of mastery over my life. Those small steps built up over time, and before I realized it, I had advanced significantly without even recognizing it.
Don't attempt to solve everything at once if you're feeling overburdened. Think about what you can do today. And concentrate only on the next hour if today seems like too much. Things get easier the more you deconstruct them.
6. Request Assistance When You Need It
Asking for assistance used to seem like a show of weakness to me. I thought I wasn't strong enough if I couldn't manage my issues on my own. I suffered in quiet when I didn't have to for a long time because of that thinking. I persuaded myself that I had to work things out on my own, that no one could truly assist, and that no one would understand. That belief, however, simply made matters worse.
It took me a while to understand that strength is about understanding when to rely on others, not about managing everything on your own. I was shocked by how many individuals were willing to help me when I eventually asked for assistance. I had friends who listened without passing judgment, even though I feared they wouldn't understand. Words of consolation were supplied by family members I had assumed would ignore my difficulties. One of the finest choices I've ever made was to seek professional assistance, something I had previously been apprehensive about.
Do not bear the weight alone if you are going through a difficult moment. Some wish to assist and care for you. Be clear about what you need, whether it's a listening ear, situational guidance, or even more useful assistance like assistance with everyday tasks. When you let people share the weight with you, you'll be shocked at how much lighter it feels.
7. Remember Your Resilience
I had moments when I felt totally helpless as if I had lost all the strength to continue. I told myself that the circumstance was too hard for me and that I wasn't strong enough. However, I decided to reflect on my life one day while I was having trouble with these ideas. I reflected on all the previous challenges I had encountered in the past—the losses, the disappointments, the heartbreaks. And I came to the crucial realization that I had made it through each and every one of them.
I had previously been put to the test by life, but I always managed to persevere. I persevered even when I didn't think I would. I was reminded that I was stronger than I thought I was, and that understanding gave me strength.
I began writing down the difficulties I had previously surmounted in my journal. I recorded the instances when I got lost and then found my way back. I wrote about the times I felt like I had failed, only to discover afterward that those setbacks had paved the way for something better. I was reminded by looking at that list that I had been through difficult circumstances previously and had recovered. I could do it today if I could do it back then.
Spend some time thinking back on your history if you're having trouble. Consider all the instances in which you overcame adversity. You may not even be aware of the strength you possess. Keep it in mind.
8. Take Care of Your Physical and Mental Well-Being
It's simple to overlook self-care when times are difficult. I've done it myself, so I know this. There were moments when I was so stressed that I stopped eating healthily, slept very little, and quit exercising altogether. I convinced myself that taking care of myself was not the most essential thing to think about. But as time went on, I saw that ignoring my health simply made matters worse.
My energy levels declined when I wasn't eating well, which made managing stress much more difficult. My thoughts got cloudy and I had trouble thinking straight when I wasn't sleeping. Physically and emotionally, I felt even more trapped when I stopped moving my body. Until I consciously chose to break the cycle, it continued to weigh me down.
I began modestly. I concentrated on developing easy habits rather than imposing a rigid schedule on myself. Even when I didn't feel like it, I made sure to eat at least one healthy meal every day. I went on quick walks outside to decompress. Unexpectedly, doing mindfulness exercises like deep breathing helped me stop my mind from racing.
You don't have to drastically alter your way of life to take care of yourself. It entails taking tiny, regular steps to put your health first. Try to do one thing that benefits your body or mind, even on the worst days. This may be receiving enough sunshine, drinking enough water, or simply permitting yourself to relax.
Remember that your health is important no matter how bad things become. You develop the fortitude to handle any challenge when you look after yourself.
9. It’s Okay to Take a Break
For a very long time, I thought that if I just kept making progress, things would ultimately improve. I believed that I would overcome the problem if I put in more effort, disregarded my fatigue, and pushed myself to continue. However, I was mistaken. I felt worse physically, emotionally, and cognitively the more I disregarded my need for sleep.
Even though I was exhausted at the time, I persuaded myself that taking a break was a show of weakness rather than backing off. I persevered and eventually burned myself out attempting to tackle everything at once. Eventually, I ran out of things to offer, not even to myself. That's when I finally understood that getting enough sleep is essential, not a luxury.
Giving up is not the same as taking a break. It does not imply that you lack strength or ability. It just indicates that you are a person. Stepping away, even for a short period, is sometimes the greatest thing you can do for yourself. I discovered something amazing when I at last gave myself permission to stop: my emotions steadied, my thoughts were clearer, and I was able to approach my problems from a new angle.
I now make it a point to plan breaks during the day. Rest is also productive, even when I feel like I "should" be working or fixing problems. These relaxation periods, whether it be going for a little stroll, reading a book, or just spending some time sitting quietly, aid in my ability to recharge.
Don't be scared to take a break if you're having trouble. Sometimes the best way to get back on track is to take a step back from the pandemonium.
10. You Are Not Defined by Your Struggles
I became convinced that my challenges were a part of who I was throughout my darkest hours. I believed that the only things that identified me were my suffering, my shortcomings, and my challenges. "Maybe I'm just not good enough if I'm struggling this much," I thought. It got more difficult to proceed as a result of those ideas becoming a trap.
But as time went on, I realized that hardships are only parts of our story; they don't define it. Neither you nor I are limited to my difficult moments. The difficulties you are now dealing with are only a minor portion of your path and do not diminish your value.
I began to remind myself of who I was despite my difficulties. I wrote down all of my achievements, no matter how minor. I emphasized my kindness, resiliency, and strengths. "I am more than what I am going through," I reminded myself daily. And I began to believe it gradually.
Remind yourself of all the other aspects of who you are if you ever feel like your problems are taking over your identity. No matter what difficulties you are going through, your compassion, your aspirations, your passions, and your memories are all just as important, if not more so.
11. Small Wins Matter
It's simple to believe that development is impossible when things are difficult. It may feel as though you're stagnating or even regressing due to the burden of your difficulties. However, we sometimes forget that even the slightest progress is still progress. Even a single, tiny move can make the difference between remaining stuck and progressively overcoming adversity.
There have been times when I've felt so exhausted that I thought nothing I did would change anything. However, I came to understand that praising even the smallest successes made me feel in control and accomplished. Sometimes it felt like an enormous effort to just get out of bed, prepare a meal for myself, or reply to a message. But as time went on, I realized that each of these acts demonstrated my continued effort, perseverance, and refusal to give up.
Acknowledging and applauding these small victories is one of the finest strategies to gain momentum during difficult circumstances. Perhaps you completed a chore you've been putting off, handled a challenging discussion, or just permitted yourself to relax guilt-free. It matters, whatever it is. These little triumphs build up and gradually pave the way for brighter times.
I developed the habit of thinking back on at least one accomplishment, no matter how small, at the end of each day. On some days, it was as easy as taking a deep breath or drinking enough water rather than freaking out. On other days, it was completing a task or coming to a conclusion I had been putting off. Eventually, acknowledging these victories inspired me to keep going even when everything else seemed too much to handle.
12. Hope is a Powerful Force
Hope might seem like a far-off fantasy when things grow bleak. I've had moments when I thought I was drowning in my troubles and that nothing would ever improve. Hope seemed unattainable in those times, a term people used to cheer themselves up. I did learn, however, that hope is about believing that things may improve, not about acting as though nothing is wrong.
I can recall a period when I felt totally lost and trapped in an apparently never-ending scenario. Despite my best efforts, I was unable to envision a way out. Then, however, a slight change occurred—perhaps a supportive remark from someone, an unforeseen chance, or simply the knowledge that I had fared worse. Those little sparks served as a reminder that things may still get better as long as I persisted.
Holding onto the hope that tomorrow could be better than today is what hope is all about, not waiting for a miracle. Having hope involves not accepting that your current circumstances are permanent, even when nothing seems to be going right. It entails having faith in your capacity to recover, develop, and rebuild.
I surround myself with things that inspire me to maintain optimism. Sometimes it involves reading about others who have overcome comparable obstacles, listening to inspirational music, or just reminding myself of the difficulties I have overcome in the past. I also make an effort to concentrate on the little things that make me happy, like a peaceful moment, a nice chat, or a sunrise. I can see that even at my worst hours, there is still beauty, goodness, and a purpose to live thanks to these small reminders.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself to feel well right away if you're having trouble finding optimism. Simply begin by thinking, "Things can change." Continue saying it even if you don't believe it yet. Because in time, you will realize that neither this day nor the worst ones lasted forever.
No matter how tough things become, keep in mind that you have overcome obstacles in the past and come out stronger. Every hardship is only one part of a larger tale. Permit yourself to take breaks, look for help, and have faith in your own ability to bounce back. Your ability to overcome obstacles defines you, not your struggles. Keep going, even if it's just a little step at a time. You are more than capable of achieving the better days that lie ahead.
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