8 ways to stay calm in difficult times

 Despite our best efforts to prepare, obstacles always seem to find us since life is full of unexpected turns. These difficulties can occasionally be minor, such as handling a demanding workday or failing to meet a crucial deadline. At other times, they are too much to handle—health issues, financial hardships, personal losses, or world problems that make us feel insecure. It seems hard to remain composed at these times. It is hard to think clearly or make logical judgments when the mind is racing, the pulse is pounding, and emotions take control. I am all too familiar with this.

I've experienced my share of stressful situations where I felt trapped in a loop of overanalyzing and couldn't concentrate on anything but the current issue. However, I've seen by experience that although stress is unavoidable, how we respond to it matters much. Maintaining composure does not mean denying issues or acting as though nothing is wrong. It's about focusing on the here and now, taking charge of what you can, and developing the ability to think clearly when faced with obstacles. These are some useful techniques that I've found work well for maintaining composure when life seems too much to handle.

1. Practice Deep Breathing

My breathing changes when I'm under stress, and that's one of the first things I notice. It gets hurried and superficial, which exacerbates my anxiety. When we are under stress, our bodies naturally go into "fight or flight" mode. The good news is that by intentionally altering our breathing patterns, we can reverse this reaction. The parasympathetic nervous system is triggered by deep breathing, which aids in the body's relaxation and equilibrium.

The 4-7-8 breathing method is one that I employ, and I can attest to its efficacy. When I'm feeling overburdened, I stop and perform the following:

• For four seconds, I inhaled deeply through my nose until my lungs were full.
• Let the oxygen flow through my body by holding my breath for seven seconds.
• Release all of the stress I've been holding in by exhaling slowly and completely from my lips for eight seconds.

After going through this cycle a few times, I feel notably more at ease in a matter of minutes. Box breathing, which involves taking a four-second breath, holding it for four seconds, letting it out for four seconds, and then repeating the process, is another easy method that is quite effective.

I've recommended these techniques to friends and family, and they've also found them to be quite helpful, particularly in times of stress or annoyance. The best thing about deep breathing is that you can do it anywhere: at work, before a crucial meeting, during a heated argument, or even while you're laying in bed and your mind won't stop racing.

I've also found that deep breathing works better when combined with calming music or natural noises. When I practice, I occasionally listen to soothing ocean waves or gentle instrumental music, which helps me relax even more. I strongly suggest giving this a try if you haven't already.

2. Focus on What You Can Control

The fact that worrying about things I can't control merely saps my energy is one of the most difficult lessons I've ever had to master. Sometimes, whether it was other people's behavior, unanticipated unpleasant news, or future uncertainty, I became fixated on circumstances over which I had no control. However, my sense of helplessness and anxiety increased as I became more obsessed with these things.

I found that changing my perspective to concentrate on the things I could control helped. Rather than becoming overwhelmed by worries about outside circumstances, I began to question myself:

• What can I do at this moment?
• How do I adjust to this circumstance?
• Where can I use my energy most effectively right now?

For instance, during a particularly trying moment at work, I concentrated on what I could accomplish, such as better organizing my tasks, enhancing my time management, and creating modest, attainable objectives, rather than stressing about decisions that were beyond my control. Instead of feeling stuck in a stressful cycle, this small change gave me a sense of empowerment.

I've also found that writing things down has been really beneficial. Every time I feel overburdened, I take out a notepad and write down everything that's on my mind. I then review the list and mark everything that is out of my control. My attention is focused on what I can do about the remaining issues. My mental clarity and tranquility have greatly increased as a result of this exercise.

I urge you to give this strategy a try if you're currently coping with a difficult situation. Take a minute to identify what you can and cannot manage rather than allowing concern to overtake you. When you let go of things that aren't required, you'll be shocked at how much lighter you feel.

3. Engage in Physical Activity

The impact that exercise has on our mental health is astounding. Exercise is one of the finest natural stress relievers available, yet I used to undervalue the link between physical activity and stress reduction.

I always make it a point to move, even if it's only for a little stroll if I'm feeling stressed, nervous, or overwhelmed. Something about being outside, taking in the fresh air, and sensing my body moving helps me feel more rooted right away.

I find that different types of exercise are effective in various contexts. I take a quick stroll or jog if I need to decompress and think things out. I find that a high-intensity workout helps me let go of any pent-up tension or irritability. Yoga is my go-to on days when I simply want something relaxing because it helps me relax and re-establish a connection with my body via stretching, breathing exercises, and completing positions.

Additionally, I make it a point to include little motions in my day, particularly when I'm stressed or busy. My mood is much improved by even small activities like dancing to my favorite music, stretching for a few minutes, or performing a few jumping jacks.

I strongly advise you to attempt adding physical activity to your daily routine if you're feeling overburdened. Find something that makes you feel alive and good for you instead of spending hours at the gym.

4. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

Getting sucked into a mental tornado is one of the most difficult things I've encountered when managing stress. I find it hard to concentrate on the here and now since my mind is constantly racing with "what ifs" and worst-case situations. For me, that's where meditation and mindfulness have changed my life.

The practice of mindfulness involves paying close attention to one's thoughts, feelings, and environment while avoiding passing judgment. It teaches you to calm down, accept your feelings, and distance yourself from stressful situations. I found it difficult to sit still and concentrate when I first attempted mindfulness, but I eventually discovered that it doesn't have to be difficult.

I use mindfulness in my everyday life in the following ways:

• Morning meditation: I take five to ten minutes to sit in a peaceful spot, close my eyes, and concentrate on my breathing before I begin my day. I simply watch my thoughts without getting carried away; I don't strive to suppress them.
• Mindful activities: I occasionally try to be attentive when performing basic duties like washing dishes, having a shower, or even just drinking tea. I really immerse myself in the experience by concentrating on the sensations—the warmth of the water, the scent of my tea, the sounds surrounding me.
• Gratitude journaling: Keeping a gratitude diary has assisted me in changing my perspective from what's wrong with my life to what I still have. I write down three things for which I am thankful every day. It's a minor habit, yet it has a significant impact on how I view difficulties.

I utilize the "5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique," one of my favorite mindfulness exercises, anytime I start to feel anxious. This is how it works:

• Name 5 things you can see.
• Name 4 things you can touch.
• Name 3 things you can hear.
• Name 2 things you can smell.
• Name 1 thing you can taste.

This practice pauses my nervous thoughts and swiftly brings me back to the present. Try it if you're ever feeling overwhelmed—I swear it helps!

5. Limit Exposure to Negative News

I used to read through the news first thing in the morning because I believed it was crucial to be informed. However, I quickly discovered that an excessive amount of bad news was depressing me and keeping me on edge all the time. Being informed of global events is important, but too much exposure to negative news can exacerbate worry and despair.

I've since created better news habits that enlighten me without being overbearing:

• Setting time limits: I schedule a definite period, generally once in the morning and once in the evening, to catch up on the news rather than monitor it throughout the day. This keeps me from being caught up in a never-ending doomscrolling loop.
• Selecting reliable sources: I steer clear of sensationalized news and only trust sites that emphasize facts over scare tactics.
• Balancing news with positive content: I always look for positive items in addition to any depressing headlines I come across, whether they are humorous videos that make me laugh inspirational news, or personal development articles.

If viewing or reading the news causes you to feel nervous, think about reducing your intake. It just means safeguarding your mental well-being so that you can comprehend knowledge without feeling exhausted; it doesn't imply denying the truth.

6. Connect with Loved Ones

6. Communicate with Those You Love

I have occasionally attempted to manage stress on my own since I felt that I didn't want to bother other people with my issues. However, I've discovered that relying on loved ones in trying times is a sign of strength rather than weakness.

I feel lighter whenever I connect with a friend or relative, even only for a little conversation. My mental health may improve just by sharing a joke, talking about what's on my mind, or hearing someone say, "I understand."

In times of extreme stress, I make it a point to:

• Call or video chat with someone I trust.
• Meet up with a friend for coffee or a walk.
• Send a quick text just to check in and connect.

Don't isolate yourself if you're going through a terrible time. You have folks that want to help you and care about you. A little discussion with an understanding person can have a profound impact.

7. Establish a Healthy Routine

One thing I've observed is that my schedule tends to break down when things become hectic. I neglect to take breaks, skip exercises, eat badly, and get less sleep, all of which exacerbate stress. I've thus made it a point to establish a daily schedule that helps me stay grounded, even under trying circumstances.

Here are some things that support my ability to stay balanced:

• Prioritizing sleep: Every night, I try to get seven to nine hours of sleep. I avoid using electronics just before bed and maintain a regular bedtime since getting too little sleep makes everything feel more daunting.
• Eating healthy foods: When I'm under stress, I aim to eat meals that provide my body energy instead of turning to junk food. My energy levels noticeably change when I eat balanced meals and drink adequate water.
• Taking breaks: I remind myself that productivity isn't about working continuously, but about working wisely. I do this by stretching, going outdoors for some fresh air, or just stopping to breathe.

Start modestly if stress has disrupted your routine. Concentrate on one habit at a time, such as getting better sleep, eating more nutrient-dense meals, or scheduling downtime. Little, regular acts can have a significant effect.

8. Practice Self-Compassion

Perhaps the most significant thing I've learned is to treat oneself with kindness.

When things don't go as planned, we may be very hard on ourselves. I used to criticize myself for experiencing anxiety or for not managing stress "perfectly," but I eventually concluded that doing so just made matters worse.

Rather than berating myself, I now engage in self-compassion by:

• Addressing myself in the same manner as I would a friend. I would never tell a buddy they were "failing" or "not good enough" if they were having difficulties. Why would I say it to myself, then?
• Stress is natural, I remind myself. Everybody has bad days. Being overwhelmed is a sign of my humanity, not weakness.
• Letting myself take breaks. I no longer endure fatigue to satisfy irrational demands. Additionally, rest is productive.

Please remember to treat yourself with kindness if you're going through a difficult moment. It's sufficient that you're trying your best.

We will always face difficulties in life, but how we handle them will determine how things turn out. Maintaining composure requires learning to deal with stress in a patient, resilient, and self-careful manner rather than trying to escape it.

I urge you to attempt at least one of these techniques if you ever feel overburdened. Determine what suits you the most, then include it in your regular schedule. You'll develop the capacity to handle difficulties with composure and a clear head with time and practice.

You're capable. 💙

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